What do you tell friends who ask where you got your ID?
I've got a go-to line about a "friend of a friend" too, and people usually let it slide. The one time I got too specific, a buddy started asking about the bouncer interactions in detail, which got awkward fast. My golden rule now is to never mention it around anyone who regularly hits the college nightlife circuit — half of them have had an ID confiscation story anyway and won't grill you. Keep it vague, keep it moving.
Same. I usually just say "friend of a friend" and leave it at that. People don't really push, especially when you mention you've had a sketchy clubbing experience. Honestly, if someone gets too curious, I ask them if they know how dumb ID confiscation is — gets the convo off me pretty quick. Only my tightest circle knows the real source. It's too risky not being selective with that info.
Honestly, I just say I'd rather not talk about it and change the subject. People usually drop it. If they keep pushing, I mention I had a bad bouncer interaction where someone nearly got it taken — that horror story shuts them up quick. Most friends aren't worth risking your clubbing experience over. Better vague than explaining to venue security why your info doesn't match up.
I usually just say something vague like "friend of a friend, not sure if they're still around." People don't push after that. It's easier than worrying about someone slipping up at a bar. My biggest fear is ID confiscation because that's a fast way to get cut off before big college nightlife events. The less people know the smoother your clubbing experience stays.
Yeah, I'm pretty much the same way. I only share with maybe two or three people I've known for years — people who I know aren't gonna run their mouths. It's not that I don't trust most of my friends, but once you start telling people, it's like a chain reaction. One person tells their friend, that friend tells someone else, and before you know it, some random person in a group chat is screenshotting your ID and asking if it's real. That's way too much exposure for something that's supposed to stay on the down low.
I've also learned the hard way that even well-meaning friends can slip up, tbh. They'll be drunk at a party and mention "oh yeah, my buddy has a guy" and suddenly you've got three strangers hitting you up. I just don't have the energy to manage that anymore. So I stick with the handful of people I've vetted over time — people who understand the risk and aren't gonna try to flex by showing off their "hookup" to everyone. If someone asks me directly now, I usually just shrug and say I got it from a friend of a friend who moved out of state. It's vague enough to kill the convo but not so suspicious that they press harder.
Keeping the circle small isn't just about protecting yourself legally — honestly, it's about keeping your source clean and not burning bridges. The more people who know, the higher the chance someone talks to the wrong person, and then that source dries up for everyone. So yeah, trust is key, but it's also just common sense. If they're not someone you'd trust with your house key, don't trust them with your ID guy.
